Today’s Transfacts are brought to you by the salty assumptions of cis people.
1. Did you know the brain of a trans person matches their gender and has been proven through brain scans and a variety of other technology? Let me clarify more: If you took images of my brain through an MRI, it would look just like other cis male’s brain image scans. Why? Because we are the gender we say we are! Shocking.
I don’t have to write, “There are people in life who won’t accept you” because you already know that. There’s a lot of risk to coming out. Your relationships, career and life itself is in potential danger when you come out as transgender. It’s tempting to just stay closeted so that you don’t have to worry about losing your closest relationships. I can’t promise you that everyone in your life is going to be accepting—how can I? But I can promise you that at least one person in your life WILL accept you for who you are, even if you haven’t met them yet. Come out to that person. Screw everyone else.
Learn your triggers.
When I was a teenager, the word “trigger” was only used in the mentally ill community. It was for kids in mental hospitals who didn’t feel like doing their homework. When I say, “trigger” as it pertains to the trans community, I don’t mean just trigger words like the t-slur or being deadnamed. I also mean that you need to learn your limits. What specific words, phrases, TV shows or situations make you dysphoric, angry or afraid? The sooner you map these out, the greater chance you have at avoiding them. To be honest, I’m still figuring these out.
Not being “trans enough” isn’t a thing.
Wrap your head around the fact that it’s mostly cis people who will tell you that you’re not “trans enough,” so, that should make it pretty easy to ignore. In all seriousness, it doesn’t matter if you’re not passing, don’t adhere to gender norms or aren’t on hormones. You are valid.
Help the people who are in worse situations than you.
In the past year that I’ve been out, I’ve met trans folk whose families don’t accept them. I’ve met those who are homeless and even one trans woman who escaped human trafficking. I’ve decided to offer up my home to these people through the Transgender Assistance Program of Virginia as a way to give back to my community.
Many of you know that the Hershee Bar in Norfolk is being forced to close or move due to a buyout of the property by the City of Norfolk. Hershee's has been an institution in the local LGBTQ community for over 35 years and it is one of the oldest traditionally Lesbian bars in the nation. Alternatives HR would like to share your stories of the bar.
“How can Norfolk be more LGBT friendly?” was the topic of a town hall panel discussion at the Hershee Bar on Thursday, August 2, 2018. LGBT citizens and Hershee Bar supporters showed up as part of an ongoing campaign to save the bar. Earlier this year the Norfolk City Council made plans to buy the building where the Hershee Bar is located. This plan will displace the bar at the end of October this year. Hershee’s or HB’s, as the bar is known, has been an institution in the local LGBT community for over 35 years and is one of the oldest traditionally Lesbian bars in the country. The Norfolk City Council has no immediate plans for the site, and many believe that homophobia might play a role in the City Council’s decision to buy and demolish the bar.
"We are fighting the bravest fight I’ve ever seen."
Thursday’s town hall meeting at HB’s was moderated by Nicole Carry. Carry thanked folks “who took the time to show up and care.” Annette Stone, co-owner of the bar, also thanked folks for showing up at the City Council meetings and for their support. She said that she found out about the city’s deal in February and that it wasn’t communicated to her in an appropriate way. She said as she investigated the situation further that she was lied to and given the runaround. She believes that “we are fighting the bravest fight I’ve ever seen.” She went on to say of LGBT acceptance “We’ve come very far, but we have a long way to go.”
Aries Apothecary recently moved from its old location in the Hunter’s Mill Shoppes on Virginia Beach Boulevard in Virginia Beach to the Riverview section of Norfolk. Its new location is 3822 Granby Street in Norfolk.
Aries Apothecary is a local metaphysical store that sells herbs, stones and crystals, candles, essential oils, and all-natural soaps, among other offerings. The shop also features books from local authors. They offer consignments for local authors, artists, and craft persons. Additionally, the store hosts various events including book launch parties, psychic fairs, and Pagan classes and rituals.
On Monday, July 30, 2018, Hampton Roads Pride held its annual Volunteer Appreciation Party. The event is always held shortly after the Hampton Roads PrideFest to celebrate those volunteers who helped during the PrideFest, Pride Week, and throughout the year.
This year’s party featured a Luau theme. Guests were able to partake of Hawaiian themed food, to get drinks from the bar, and there was also cake. Hampton Roads Pride’s newest promotional video was unveiled. Later in the evening, folks were encouraged to learn how to hula dance.
Druidism was the religious and scholarly path of the ancient Celts. Druids were the priests, scholars, and advisors of the ancient Celtic world. They studied for 20 years to become a full druid. Other ranks included Bards who were storytellers and musicians and Ovates who devoted themselves to divination and healing. Unfortunately the ancient druids didn’t write anything down and committed all their beliefs and practices to memory and oral tradition, so most of what we know comes from secondary sources and conjecture.
For a third time, supporters of the Hershee Bar converged on the Norfolk City Council to challenge the city's redevelopment plans that will result in the bar closing its doors in October. After the regular business of the June 24, 2013 City Council meeting, supporters continued to tell their stories. These stories included heartfelt anecdotes about how the bar has been a safe place for LGBTQ persons in a world that even today isn't always safe for these people to be themselves. Hershee's and other LGBTQ bars have provided shelter for folks who can't safely walk down the street holding hands with their partners, whose families might reject them, who might be turned away by their churches, and who might be questioning their sexuality and self-worth with nowhere else to turn. Others challenged how future historians might view the Norfolk City Council decades later for forcing this historically Lesbian bar to close. Some City Council members were noticeably moved by these testimonies showing expressions of empathy and concern.
Bisexual erasure is the tendency to deny the existence or legitimacy of bisexuality and bisexual individuals. The most common forms of bi erasure include simply ignoring bisexual identity, and also believing that bisexuals are going through a phase and that they will eventually realize they are either homosexual or heterosexual. Extreme forms of bi erasure involve denial that bisexuality actually exists, removing or falsifying evidence of bisexuality from history, and ignoring bisexuals in the news media (even in the LGBT media).
On July 21, 2018, Equality Virginia hosted a TIES Pop-up at the Slover Library in Norfolk. TIES stands for Transgender Information and Empowerment Summit. The event was co-hosted by the Transgender Assistance Program and the Slover Library. Other Pop-ups have been scheduled for Winchester (July 14) and Roanoke (July 28). A statewide TIES conference is scheduled for October 20 in Richmond.
Norse paganism includes Asatru, Heathenry, and Odinism among other related paths. Norse pagans honor and worship the Norse gods and goddesses including Odin, Thor, and Freya. The Norse gods and goddesses fall into two categories, the Aesir and the Vanir. The Aesir are the principal pantheon and are typically war gods who live in Asgard. The Vanir are a group of gods associated with fertility, wisdom and the ability to see the future. Norse pagans also honor nature spirits (such as elves) and their ancestors. Most of what we know about these gods and goddesses and their mythologies comes from the Icelandic Prose and Poetic Edda’s and the Norse Sagas.