The Norfolk Polyamory Meetup group held a roundtable discussion on May 7. The event was held afterhours at a local restaurant and the topic of the discussion was “Why are we Poly?” Sunday’s discussion drew about 20 people.
Polyamory is a form of consensual non-monogamy where those involved have relationships with two or more people. These relationships can take many forms including open relationships, closed relationships among a small group of people, and various combinations of open and closed relationships. Polyamory requires a great deal of communication and honesty, and those in polyamorous relationships generally set their own agreements and terms for their relationships. Some consider polyamory a lifestyle choice, while others consider it an orientation.
When we moved the old site over to the new Alternatives HR site, many of you noticed a new community added that you might not be familiar with – Polyamory. It has been and will continue to be a priority of Alternatives HR to provide a voice for sexual, orientation, lifestyle, and spiritual communities that aren’t necessarily mainstream. That’s one of the reasons for the new site name and the expansion of the communities we cater to.
So what is polyamory? The term “poly-amourous” was coined in an article titled “A Bouquet of Lovers” in May 1990 by Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart. Morning Glory was a Neopagan leader, author, lecturer, and Priestess of the Church of All Worlds. Literally, polyamory means “many loves,” and those in the polyamory community promote consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy. Rather than committing to one monogamous partner for the rest of one’s life, polyamorists recognize that many folks have an inherent inclination for love, sexuality, and intimacy with more than one person. Some go so far as to consider polyamory an orientation, and not just a lifestyle choice. Because those involved have to set their own rules and boundaries rather than accepting what is handed down to them by society, polyamory may be even more honest than ordinary monogamous relationships.